Are yal official yet?

  This seems to be a question I've only heard women ask, but if you don't ask, you are left to question alot of things that you probably shouldn't. It's about signing a unwritten contract that didn't come with the carfax. The start of the ending of what was once fun and stress free.  First let's cover when you shouldn't discuss this....

  *You shouldn't spring this question on someone you don't know on the behalf of a friend while that friend is present. Like really your asking for a smartass reply from a guy like me.
  *You should not ask this to the guy you met at the bar. Why you ask; because neither of you are going to want to find a new bar to hang out just to avoid each other after he never calls you again...
  *You might not want to ask a question like this first thing in the morning because the rest of the day will suck. Lol no really you're both going to wonder about that answer you did or didn't get.

What's the purpose of it if you do everything official? Why do you need the title that comes with being "official"? Learn to enjoy life the way it is and not the way everyone else wants it to be. Don't allow your friends to dictate what happiness should be for you but they should check your mood ring occasionally. I've witnessed relationships forced because of friends; (im guilty of it too) situations where there was clearly an understanding of what things would be....
  
  So when when this question is brought up it should be brought up during a argument.... Sound pretty dumb doesn't it. It actually makes all the sense in the world. Your relationship is built on emotion, understanding, disagreements, respect and that other word..... What better time for all of those to be  expressed truthfully then a argument? The time is exclusive (normally) and at a point that will make or break you, him or her. This is also something.that varies with age and wisdom. Do what comfortable to you. If your leasing relationships until you find the right one do you. Just make sure its genuine and you both have an understanding of.what things are and what's to come.

 

Aydens first boyfriend

While talking with a friend who has two kids of her own her own her purpose is to teach me early. I take life's lessons as they come. This lesson was one that I would have to teach for as long as I'm a father.

So the idea is that the father I am will determine the caliber of man my daughter dates when she is old enough. ( sounds like no man will be.good.enough forher but...) All jokes aside this is something that I think about daily and is amplified everytime I'm in the presence of my daughter.

I've come to notice that most of the stuff I was brought up doing is highly favored by females because it no longer exist on the level it should. I'm not doing anything  extra special but my daughters birth has raised my value for what I already knew was special; a woman.

So with that being said my daughter will look toward toher door being opened, calls to make sure she's safe, not carrying bags, hearing I love you, flowers for no reason, respect, loyalty, reliability, strong support, stability, straight foward but considerate, family oriented, open minded, stylish, well groomed, educated.

AND SO MUCH MORE!

The village will raise this child. So Aydens second boyfriend will have to come correct.

"Don't let her".........Get you fucked up

The power of.the p.u.s.s.y....... This term holds so much truth that its that its kinda sad. My focus isn't exactly what Jay-z was talking about in his song but holds truth. A man's duty is to protect the pussy, I mean the woman........ But life has shown that a man trying to protect a woman that's out of line can result in an ass whooping that could have been avoided. So "dont let her" get you fucked up...

The scenario of the date, boyfriend, husband, best friend getting into an altercation because the date, girlfriend,wife and bff/ homegirl aka (drawls you haven't hit yet) wanted to argue with someone rather right or wrong plays out too often. With out scanning the situation (wich is a skill most woman don't possess; look at their driving) of what on the surface looks like one dude out of line is actually a gang of drunk niggas ready for something to kick off.  This is one of those times where you have to be at your best because its really a lose lose. The guy that your girl is arguing with is never alone because niggas don't act a fool by themselves.  Walking away can result in a attack you can't see which is the worst but too much talking will give your girl a chance to piss everyone off and draw a crowd to the soon to come ass whooping.

To help you avoid this situation you have to educate yourself and the woman you are with. While you are getting to know your girl you need to have this talk. Ask a few question. 
   ~ when was your last fight
   ~ do you have any enemies
   ~ does your husband work for the police
   ~ where do you normally hang out
   ~ are you going to wear that

All these questions should give you a good idea of where you can go, what you should bring, what you should where and what to look for. When you both meet up make sure she knows where you will be going and make sure she's in a good mood. This will prepare her for certain foolishness.  If she has an attitude you need to change the plans.

If you follow all these rules and she still gets you into some shit you need to fight her cause she set you up!

Ladies you have the ability to make or break a date. We can all agree that your man getting his ass kicked for you isnt a good way to end a night. Even if your dude wins the fight you will probably start a life long beef and generate a police record. That man isn't going to knowingly let you get your ass beat. So save yourself (as Kevin Heart said "be apart of your own rescue). Before you POP slick make sure you get confirmation from your dude. Make sure you and him are dressed for the occasion. The guy yelling "hey shawty", ignore him! DONT LOOK BACK!

If you are with a man and you look back; to us that means he's a bitch and shawty want me to get her. (sounds stupid but its a fact)

With all that being said make your next outing a smooth one.

Don't let her get you fucked up!

Video is funny. S/o to the week ass pitbull that watched boy get beat up. Sick'em bitches. Lol
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=olK8H_zBRKM&feature=youtube_gdata_player

Hot mess

Often you here people say "damn, you look a hot mess" or "girl she was looking a hot mess". Well today I plan to help those that can't seem to get a visual of what a hot mess looks like. 

First its ok to look a hot mess if you are in the privacy of your own home. BUT when you leave those four walls you should present yourself as if  pride  depended on your attire. Your probably saying to yourself I don't care what anyone else things.... blah blah blah. Every one does, just some more then others. But today's Hot ass mess clearly didn't. 

A hot ass mess looks like they didn't wash there face when they woke up. They probably did but you can't tell. A hot ass mess looks like they just finished boxing with Layla Ali and she knocked your bun loose. A hot ass mess has more skin hanging out of their clothes then there should be. ( why does your back look like it should have a bra on..) A hot ass mess has on pants that look like the stains were ironed in and scotch guarded so soap can't get in.  You can always determine a hot ass mess from the shoes so we will leave those out. (this time) 

You can credit looking h.a.m to rushing or being caught on laundry day. Either way its wrong wrong wrong. Don't get out of your bed and not give yourself a chance to pass for someone.that cares about them self.

(the following picture is an example of what not to do to yourself ever because.you look a HOT ASS MESS. Taking on the green line this morning)

Mixtape that demands attention

I'm sure you haven't been living under a rock and know who Frank Ocean is.... Maybe you don't. I've seen this guys new refreshing sound being compared to a mix of Trey Songs and Kid Cudi.... Horrible options if you ask me. I would say he sounds like a Ryan Leslie/ Musiq Soul Child mixed with Common. If that doesn't give you a visual you should just download the mixtape titled Nostalgia ( sentimental yearning for the past) and tell me just how right I am. His music will take you to a familiar place then show it to you upside down. (just a different view). I love the Nostalgia mixtape. My favorite song this week would probably be American Wedding. Gives an interesting view of "our" culture. Besides the song that's being played on the radio
Here is the link to download

http://www.datpiff.com/Frank-Ocean-Nostalgia-Ultra-mixtape.210282.html

Godsmasterpiece

Not to get too religious on you but if you take the time to look up when the sun is setting, you will see the master at work. The picture speaks for it self.